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Rona Maynard's avatar

This tribute radiates love and understanding of old, treasured friendships. I am so sorry. Wear that top forever.

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Teronda Seymore's avatar

Aww, man, I had to read this twice. Beautiful writing and a joy to have a friendship circle of that length and magnitude. It also reminds me of the things I think about more as I grow older. Like will there be a day where I'll be sitting with a terminal friend? What would I do or say? Or will there be a day where this is me? I think that's why I'm so pressed to do all the things now that I have yet to do. Virtual bear hugs to you.

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Sandra Stephens's avatar

Hugs to you.

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Elizabeth Marro's avatar

As I read this, all I could think of was how lucky, how very special and lucky you all were to have had each other right up until the end. I am sorry for your loss.

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Jim Nolan's avatar

What loving friends.

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Laurie Stone's avatar

Great.

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Susanna Cuyler's avatar

Thank you. Glad read yours before TNYTIMES' obituary.

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Queen of the Apes's avatar

Invictus, Sue, and love to Joyce and Christy. What a service you provided, and what memories you preserve.

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Robert Burke Warren's avatar

Wow. WOW. What a stunning piece of writing this is, Joyce. The love, the deep friendship, the gratitude, and the bravery. I did not want it to end. I don't really imbibe these days, but nevertheless, I wanted to go out drinking with all three of you. Preferably in a downtown NYC dive. Preferably when we were all in our 30s. Is that too much to ask?

I would gladly read a whole novel/memoir of these three women. The Unmarriageables.

Within the first few lines, I was distracted by some Life Thing I needed to attend to, but I knew I had to come back, so I saved this tab until I knew I could give it my full, undivided attention. What a payoff. Thank you so much. You helped me experience gratitude for invaluable friendships of my own, some life-changing relationships.

I am so sorry for your loss. I am also glad for the friendship you had, and grateful you committed some of it to the page with such skill and grace.

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appleton king's avatar

no newspaper no matter how revered could improve upon this loving intuitive memory chant....even if she can no longer thank you we can !!

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Sari Botton's avatar

What a beautiful tribute. I’m so sorry, Joyce. ❤️

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Betsy Sherman's avatar

Oh, Joyce, this is such a beautiful heartfelt and heartbreaking tribute to your beloved friend.

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emily nussbaum's avatar

Beautiful. Thank you for writing this.

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jody greco's avatar

Heartbreaking, but how lucky you all are...how lucky......

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John Hamilton Farr's avatar

Ohhh myyyy...

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Lee Buchanan's avatar

Beautifully writing.

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